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Methadone + Change

So at the airport. Portland, OR. A civilized airport. Love it here. Not far from where I grew up. Just finished up some uniquely challenging days in Idaho. Was elbow deep in helping a family get busy helping change someone they love for the better.

The ILO (identified loved one) is addicted to methadone. High dose. Tough story. Tougher girl.

We worked and weaved and dodged and loved and in the end – 49 hours in to it, she’s heading to treatment and I’m heading home. Was working with my friend Erin Hamilton, who was riding shotgun in a seriously cool way. Leading with love. Talking mom to mom. Giving till we were both worn down, tired out but ready for the healing to begin.

Mom and dad. Sisters and a brother. They’re ready too. Had been ready for awhile. At the end of the rope, is hope. Take heart. Stick together. Get it done.

I’m teaching my five-week ChangeBegins Training starting this Tuesday. Click away to find out more info and register: www.ChangeSomeoneYouLove.com. It’s free and will inform and inspire you. Join me!
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Brad

This morning on WFAN

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Take three and call me in the morning. Three breaths that is. I invite you to do something different. Different action yields different results. I promise.

I spent an hour on WFAN this morning, the nation’s biggest AM radio station. I share it with you here: http://podcast.wfan.com/wfan/1821613.mp3

Onward,
Brad

The King is Dead. Long Live the King.

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Sad news coming out of LA this evening. A family loses a son, a brother, a dad. And a nation loses a performer who for all his strange quirks and oddities, spoke to people of all colors and got our toes to tapping.

This photo is from 1984. The year I graduated High School, and before his own personal fall along the lines of molestation and chaos. Also happens to be before the addiction which had already began in my own world got the best parts of me.

I remember this time. Things were still 99.9% good.

Whatever the cause of death is determined to be, families have power in the funk, the crisis, the darkness. That’s what we’re here for in so many instances – to shed light in the darkness. To make hope happen in the face of a loved one who spirals and is in pain.

So tonight I think of a family in pain. And a guy that seemed to be in pain for a long, long time.

Looking for the help to arrive like the cavalry seldom occurs. The change we seek begins right here, and now with a powerful loving invitation to make change begin  – not later, but now. Right now.

Onward, Brad

My Friend Pete.

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He drinks like me.

A lot. A real thirst there, to get into the zone, and out of his head. Four rehabs. Six years of effort. Three years clean. Two careers. Many friends. We’re getting worn out by it.

He’s ghosted again. Pete has.

Told his job that his “sister is on life support…”

Imagine that. I can pretty easily, as I said crap like that; lies to cover the addicted life spinning, spinning, spinning. I can picture him now. Holed up in his cramped studio apartment. Last time he was alive, but drunk and spaced on opiates when I banged loud enough for him to let me on in. The time before that he was on the floor when the NY Fire Department took the door off its’ hinges. They saved his life that time. Heart rate low. Breathing shallow.

So what the next few days hold, I’m not sure. I think he will likely lose his job this time, and with that his insurance. He has no family he is close with, and the friends in his life – his family of choice – are at the point where the relationships are deeply strained from the lying, scheming and relapse.

God, I am glad I am clean and sober today. Grateful that the obsession to get high has been lifted.

Change begins. x, Brad

10 Thoughts on Effective Addiction Treatment

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I read the following in RecoveryToday online, and have edited for clarity to share here.

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On any given day in the United States, one million people are in treatment for alcoholism or drug addiction. It is not getting into treatment, however, that makes the difference. Instead, it is what a person gets out of treatment. The fact that many people do not find success in treatment on their first attempt is due in part to a lack of understanding about what makes effective treatment.

1. There is no treatment formula that will work for everyone.

Occasionally, people looking for treatment will come across other individuals who are already in recovery and who insist that the only path to recovery is whatever path the recovering individual has taken. This simply is not true. The ultimate success of each individual entering treatment depends on finding the right treatment setting and methods for the individual, and everyone’s needs are different.

2. Medically supervised withdrawal is only one step in addiction treatment; alone it will do little.

Frequently, it is necessary for addicts and alcoholics to go through a medically supervised withdrawal period before they can safely enter treatment. However, some people confuse this short 3 to 7 day period with treatment, which it is not. Some people cycle in and out of these withdrawal episodes convinced that they should be able to maintain abstinence afterwards, but never finding success. Seemingly tragic, this allows some addicts to continue in their addiction while giving the appearance that they are attempting to get healthy.

3. Length of treatment counts

The appropriate duration for an individual depends on his or her problems and needs. Research indicates that for most patients, significant improvement is reached at about 3 months. The research suggests that this may be residential, outpatient or a combination of both depending on the individual’s needs. After this initial period, additional treatment can produce further progress toward recovery.

4. Drug addiction is a multidimensional problem, and treatment needs to address all of an individual’s needs

Effective treatment must address the individual’s drug use, but also any associated medical, psychological, social, vocational, or legal problems.

5. Counseling (individual and/or group) is a critical part of effective addiction treatment.

Many alcoholics and addicts mistakenly believe that if they could just stop using for a week or two they could stop using forever. In reality, they need therapy. In therapy, addicts examine their motivation, build skills to resist drug use, replace drug-using activities with constructive and rewarding nondrug-using activities, and improve problem-solving abilities. Additionally, therapy helps individuals to rebuild and re-learn family and social living patterns.

6. Medications are an important part of treatment for many people. Medications such as suboxone, methadone and LAAM can all be effective in helping certain individuals stay away from illicit drugs. Some times frowned upon by some individuals in recovery the truth is that these medications allow millions of individuals to live normal, productive lives.

7. Drug testing during treatment is important.

Drugs are found everywhere, even in drug treatment. Whether treatment is offered on an outpatient, inpatient or in a jail drugs are available to individuals in treatment. This puts individuals in treatment at risk for reusing even while in treatment. It also means that every individual in treatment should be monitored for drug treatment on an ongoing basis. In this manner treatment, plans may be modified to increase the chance of ultimate success.

8. Alcoholics and addicts with mental health disorders should be treated for both at the same time.

An alcoholic or addict who also has a mental health disorder is said to have “co-occurring” disorders. In the past, the question has sometimes been should the person be treated for the mental health problem or the addiction first. People may be using drugs to deal with the mental health problem or they may have the mental health issue because of their drug use. The most effective way to deal with these two “co-occurring” disorders and deal with the addiction is to treat them at the same time.

9.Addiction Treatment works even for people who don’t choose it of their own free will.

It used to be believed that someone had to want to go into treatment before it could be effective. New research has shown that this is not the case. In fact, treatment is just as effective for individuals who are court ordered to do treatment as it is for people who figure out the need for it on their own. Families and employers can be just as effective at getting unwilling addicts into treatment. Stephen King, in his autobiography “On Writing,” tells about the intervention his wife and family performed on him. King did not want to go into treatment. He was seemingly happy doing coke and drinking mouthwash, but his wife Tabitha and his children were not happy with the situation and performed an intervention. Forced to choose between family and drugs, King made the right choice. Interventions are most successful when done correctly and with the help of a professional. For more information on interventions visit www.interventionresources.net

10. Don’t give up.

As with other chronic illnesses, relapses can occur during or after successful treatment episodes. Addicted individuals may need lengthy treatment and more than one time in treatment before they can enjoy long-term abstinence and full restoration to a drug free life. The period after treatment is just as important as being in treatment. Finding support and continuous work to stay drug free will be necessary. A slip or relapse is just an indicator that more work, and possibly more treatment, is necessary. Don’t give up.

Headline News: A Pill?

Interesting article. Check this out!
Some will say, “a pill?! never!!!”
I’m not so sure. A small percentage of folks who express a desire to stop, will actually stay stopped through 12 Step. So here’s to medicine and thought and remaining teachable.
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Big though.

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The deal is this – it’s not metabolism or genes. It’s the food we put in our bodies that make them swell and hurt and grow beyond what they are intended. From the headlines today, the not-so-shocking claim that one in five preschoolers are obese.

We see them on the street, at the store, in our own home. It’s not the food – but it’s the food.

Huh!?

We confuse our wants with needs, then over time these become cravings answered as a matter of habit. We are dying to eat.

So here is the wake up call to every parent, caregiver, aunt, uncle, brother or sister – the answer starts with you. I call you to share and model how to eat, how to move, how to live in relationship with food rather than being enslaved by it.

You are the change you seek.

Talk it out and be in relation with one another instead of in relation to food. Listen for that tiny bell that signals FULL. Let your conversation expand; allow your love and care be a balm to living. A thing that fills you up on the inside that doesn’t expand your outside.

- Brad

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20% of U.S. preschoolers are obese

CHICAGO — A striking new study says almost 1 in 5 American 4-year-olds is obese, and the rate is alarmingly higher among American Indian children, with nearly a third of them obese.

Researchers were surprised to see differences by race at so early an age.

Overall, more than half a million 4-year-olds are obese, the study suggests. Obesity is more common in Hispanic and black youngsters, too, but the disparity is most startling in American Indians, whose rate is almost double that of whites.

The lead author said that rate is worrisome among children so young, even in a population at higher risk for obesity because of other health problems and economic disadvantages.

“The magnitude of these differences was larger than we expected, and it is surprising to see differences by racial groups present so early in childhood,” said Sarah Anderson, an Ohio State University public health researcher. She conducted the research with Temple University’s Dr. Robert Whitaker.

Feed Me 2.

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I was thinking this morning, here in Toronto, how resilient we are. Am at the airport now, heading home to NYC. Home to the pooch and the love and warmth. I gotta say this little City Centre Airport in Toronto is the best airport experience I’ve had since 911. True. Easy in. Comfy lounge. Human, with wireless. What could be better!

We had an intervention with a family in San Jose last night. Not by the playbook, much behind the door was other than expected. But we made it through and got her the help she was literally DYING for.

Make it through. Overcome. Wade across. Get to the other side. This is on my mind this morning.

Feel discomfort. Eat or drink or drug or rage or do… RELIEF! Numb. Make it through. Repeat enough times, and the body starts responding by storing the overflow. The body responds. Stores. Stretching.

See we get through. My goal is to get through intact. Or at least with as much skin still on me as possible, with a calm mind, a happy heart and a good supply of JOY. Because at the end of the day, our personal stories are made up in large part by the relationships that dot the landscape of our lives.

I’m heading to London in May to speak at a conference. Exciting times. Change begins!

- Brad